Bracelets

I wanted to write something about our everyday life rather than just our outings and I wanted it to mean something so this was my idea. I wear 6 bracelets everyday, three for Wynn and three for Sydney... I will for Abby too when she gets a bit older. The idea is that they all start on my right wrist and every time I verbally acknowledge something positive about my child's behavior/listening to them I move one to the other wrist. So its more than good job or thank you. I have to notice and point out a good choice they made. Anyway some days are easier than others but I wanted to take note of the great trends and habits I've noticed for each child.

Sydney has now started to recognize and empathize with others around her. She is conscious of when other people do things for her and often takes the time to say thank you for helping me with this or I really enjoyed going there or this food is really good and I like it. Her positive comments are very kind and helpful and make my day definitely brighter. She is also really good at recovering when things don't go her way. If a play date gets canceled for example, she is quick to think of a positive solution like maybe next time it will work out or can we try to reschedule it for tomorrow? She seems to know when she is super disappointed and usually asks for some alone time or a hug. Her ability to recognize and start to manage her feelings at such a young age is awesome. I am very proud of her ability to do so. It is tempting to try to solve any problems she has for her, but I hold out most of the time to see what she can do and love that she is learning to deal with disappointment and frustration in healthy ways, be resilient, and choose to move on. I am so hopeful that this learning will continue and think it will help her have a much more peaceful and content life. I hope that acknowledging it to her verbally will help her see she is on the right track and how proud we are of her.

Wynn's most frequent good behavior is that he is kind to others. It is a rare moment when he doesn't go along with Sydney's idea or share something with her when she asks. Even if he got a special treat for doing something special, before he even considers it for himself he runs to find Sydney and share it with her. Its like its more exciting to show her and share it with her than it would be to have it to himself. He is a very selfless little boy. He idolizes Sydney and thrives on her positive attention. He also has learned to start solving more problems himself  before giving up and running for help, and even though he may whine and pout while doing something he doesn't want to, he has definitely improved on trying. If we just leave him alone, even if he whines and cries the whole time he is finishing his task, when he finishes, the light just beams out of him with pride. I love seeing him learn what he is capable of and being so proud when he accomplishes something he found challenging. As he has done so he has started whining less and has been able to more things on his own. I hope to keep encouraging him to learn perseverance and problem solving so that he can help himself overcome trials and keep going his whole life.

Abby doesn't understand obedience, choices, and behavior much yet but she is such a sweet girl. She is a true true people person and loves to please. She definitely wants to be big like her siblings and loves to see that people like her and hug her, kiss her, clap for her, hold her, play games with her, anything positive. She will even go up to strangers and ask for "up" or try to get them to smile and play with her. She is so cute and just hams it up to get more attention and love.